What To Talk About In Therapy: 10 Talking Points For 2021

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What to talk about in therapy:

10 Talking Points + 3 Bonus Therapy Tips

Anxiety and depression is running rampant right now in 2020. From COVID to BLM there is a lot of growing our society needs to do.

Therapy is here to help us through times just like these. Our goal at Never Alone is to normalize seeing a therapist and telling your social media following about it.

Lets make #therapyselfie trend.

Keep reading and find out how to get the most out of therapy.

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It’s not easy to get over the negative stigma towards therapy sessions. We want to applaud you for being here and looking to make the most of your upcoming therapy session.

Like everything else we do, the more time we put into it more comfortable it becomes. Let these therapy tips help you get to that point. 

If you need an extra push of motivation, shoot Tall Paul ( our Founder ) a DM. He has gone to 100+ therapy sessions and is happy to talk about his experience and guide you to get the most out of therapy.

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU DID THIS?⁠⠀
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I do this all the time. Lately, I have been avoiding taking the time to meditate while in-bed before I finish reading.⁠⠀
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EVERY time I take 10-20 minutes to put my kindle down, shut my eyes and practice meditating (practice is the keyword here) I get an AMAZING DEEP AND UNINTERRUPTED sleep. ⁠⠀
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Yet, I find myself doing it only 3-4 times a week.⁠⠀
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There are not legit reasons why the rest of the days I don't do it.⁠⠀
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Other than avoidance.⁠⠀
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I am in bed already.⁠⠀
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I have the time to do it.⁠⠀
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I have nothing else going on.⁠⠀
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I even think about it every night.⁠⠀
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YET I STILL AVOID IT.⁠⠀
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🤔 I have a question for you⁠⠀
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What is one thing you avoid, that you would like to learn to accept to do on a regular basis?⁠⠀
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🧠mental health help VS physical health help🏃🏻‍♀️⁠⠀
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When talking about these two online, I want to know what your thoughts are on whats "safe" to talk about and what isn't?⁠⠀
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And Why?⁠⠀
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Because I am having a very hard time in seeing the difference in these two.⁠⠀
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Especially if we actually want to change the stigma around talking about mental health. ⁠⠀
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How can we change the stigma when those people / business's / brands are not willing to to speak honestly to those who need it.⁠⠀
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A lot of people are curbing the growth by playing it safe.⁠⠀
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Fuck safe, We can’t grow when we are in our safety bubbles.⁠ ⠀
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#breakingtaboo #killsilence #savelives #vancouver #physicalhealth #depression⁠⠀
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HELP ME ❤️ HELP OTHERS 🙏🏻 LEAVE YOUR TIP BELOW⁠⠀
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My own anxiety is wide-ranging. ⁠⠀
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Something as small as meeting someone for lunch or dinner and stopping 2 blocks away because I do not want to be the first person sitting down by myself.⁠⠀
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The feeling of having to sit around playing with my phone all by myself messes with my head.⁠⠀
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👇🏻 3 Tips 👇🏻⁠⠀
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My top 3 tips for easing these anxiety feelings are⁠⠀
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(1) Stop / Take 10 deep breaths through my nose⁠⠀
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(2) Talk to myself (literally out loud), running over what is happening and what the worst things that can happen actually are⁠⠀
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(3) Putting myself into these areas makes me anxious ON PURPOSE ... over and over and over again until I get comfortble with them, and the action becomes normal which means less scary for me.⁠⠀
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I'd love it if you shared one of your tips with the community in the comments.⁠⠀
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I WENT TO MY FIRST THERAPY SESSION SINCE / FEBRUARY 15TH ⁠⠀
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As I said in the video, I tried the zoom therapy session during the lockdown. Once the session was over, I clicked leave meeting and sat there and took a second to feel what was going on inside my head and chest.⁠⠀
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Why I say chest, is that whenever 'hard' things come up in my days I first notice it in my chest.⁠⠀
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It sits heavy and feels tight.⁠⠀
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And when im in a therapy session these topics come up and that same tightness occurs... yet at the end of the session, I feel like the clamp is loosened.⁠⠀
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The ability to talk through the situation and plan ahead for the next it will occur leaves me in a place of quiet confidence.⁠⠀
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THIS did not happen after the online zoom call.⁠⠀
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So, I am VERY happy that I was able to get in yesterday!⁠⠀
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If you take nothing else from this blog, please read this next section a few times before moving on.

Your new therapist can’t help you if you do not take the time to let them in. They do not read minds, nor do they know everything that has happened in your life up until now.

Commit yourself to at least four sessions with your therapist before deciding,  

 ” Therapy is not for me.”

Here is what to talk about in therapy: 10 talking points for 2020 if you don't know where to start. 

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Your thoughts on why therapy won't help you

Come out swinging. The brutal honesty of telling your brand new therapist within the first 5 minutes this news is the way to go. They will not be hurt, nor judge you. 

You will find it easier to choose to be open right away as more mental hurdles come up to voice them. The ability to speak your mind, no matter how embarrassing the thought is, will help in moving forward.

Talk about your past / not focusing on the hardships at the moment

You may be seeing your therapist due to recent events in your life, so your focus will be to figure them out. Doing this is not wrong; yet, it might be hard to find the right place to start your story.

Talking about past situations such as hardships growing up or a past brush with anxiety or depression can help loosen your tongue and mind. There is a good chance you might find a correlation between the past and current situations. 

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Talk about the last emotional experience you had

Emotional experiences can be a positive way of finding areas in your life that affected you. Emotional highs and lows leave a lasting impact on your mind and your body.

Bring up the last time you had a heartwarming experience can lead to a more in-depth conversation.

Talk over the "small" things in your life that seem not worthy of this time

The key to therapy is to get comfortable with the new human you have allowed into your most sacred thoughts. Starting with the heavy hitters and getting right down to business is impossible for most of us.

You wouldn’t ask your date to marry you after only meeting her for 15 minutes, would you?

Talk about how your friendships are going or what’s happening at work. 

Talk about your business / income / relationships / health 

Try talking about everyday things like work, income, relationships and health. Not only are these forefront on your mind, which should make them easy to discuss and get the ball rolling.

Talk about all of the positive things that have happened in your week

Positivity is a powerful emotion! It’s not boasting to start your therapy session by talking about all the positive things in life. Listing off all the items can make you smile and help feel comfortable in your new situation. 

By listing off all the positive areas in your week, you could notice a place that was not at those levels. Something that you might not have seen if you didn’t go searching for all the positives.

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Ask the therapist what they think would be a right starting spot


The desire to see a therapist for the first time may be so great that you don’t have a specific area that is forefront! The feeling of “not feeling right” is the perfect reason to go see them. 

When you get into the therapy session, go ahead and lead with that. 

“Hey Susan, I’m unsure of what to start off with, I knew I needed to come in because my day to day life doesn’t feel right. Can you help me with where to start?” 

Talk about that thing in the back of the head that you are embarrassed by

A common reason we don’t see a therapist is we think that they will judge us for their thoughts and actions. This is not true; your therapist is there to listen and help you, not judge you.

Talk about a moment in your life that has been embarrassing to you. Perhaps, there is something that you want to do but have been holding off because you are embarrassed by it.

Let your therapist listen and give you the opportunity to work out the situation with their help. 

Talk about what you have dreamt about recently 

This talking point might be a little “out there” for most of you. Discussing what is going on while we sleep is a viable conversation starter.

Even though our body shuts down to repair when we sleep, our brains are still working away hard, especially if there are stressful events in your life, like anxiety or depression. 

Talking through the dreams could help pinpoint areas in your waking life to talk over.

Bring up how you feel the sessions haven't been valuable for you so far

Honesty, honesty, HONESTY.

The ability to open up and talk about your faults is needed. So is the ability to tell your therapist that the sessions have not been helpful so far. 

Your therapist has many ways of working with different individuals. They might have guessed wrong with you, and that’s ok because they too are only human. 

If you don’t tell them that the interactions so far haven’t worked, they won’t adapt.

Like any other professional you might hire in your life, not everyone works out. This conversation may be a good time to agree that they will help you find another therapist. 

3 Bonus Therapy Tips

What are 4 types of talk therapies?

There are many types of talk therapy; here are four main types. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) where you set goals. Guided self-help where you work through a workbook. Behavioural activation which is a talk therapy either one on one or group. Interpersonal therapy (ITP) usually over 16-20 sessions.

Therapy has many forms

Our recent guest blog in our Never Alone Stories series was written by Hannah Green who has found Surf Therapy to be a powerful aid in helping with her PTSD.

What you should never tell your therapist

There are exactly zero things that you should never tell your therapist. Your therapist is your confidant, who will never judge you or speak badly about you to others. By holding back information from your therapist will only hurt you in moving forward.

How to get the most out of therapy

To get the most out of therapy, you need to do these three things. One, open up about what is going on in your head and life without holding back. Two, trust your therapist. Three, accept that it is not your fault if the therapy doesn’t seem to be helping.

In Conclusion

I hope these 10 talking points on what to talk about in therapy have helped you find your confidence. Therapy is a fantastic tool that has found itself in an area of guilt, shame and ridicule. 

This needs to change, and that change starts with us using our voices to share our stories of how it has helped us.

Use these questions to help you get started, and after time each new therapy session will get easier.

Would you help those who are shy about going to see a therapist?

Leaving a comment below saying that you go to therapy would be a huge help for everyone reading this. 

Thanks!

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